The Diet Detective: 8 Tips to Reach Your Goals

You stay up all night studying for an exam, then you blow it because you're too tired and can't concentrate. You're up for a promotion and get into a big argument with your boss. Or you're beginning to lose weight, maybe 20 pounds or so, and you start to slip -- eating a pint of ice cream or maybe an extra large piece of cake. You get the idea? There are many reasons why you might sabotage your chances of reaching your goal.

Fear of failure, fear of success, and self-handicapping are some ways individuals prevent themselves from achieving their goals. It doesn't seem logical that a person would work so hard to achieve a goal and then sabotage the results. But, according to Srini Pillay, M.D., a Harvard researcher and author of Life Unlocked: 7 Revolutionary Lessons to Overcome Fear (Rodale, 2010), " The majority of brain process works outside of the 'logic' spectrum."

According to David E. Conroy, Ph.D., a professor at Penn State University, "People fear success if they have learned that there is a cost to being successful. It may be that they had to pay a price personally for achieving some goal they had, or perhaps they saw somebody else experiencing aversive consequences for their success. Somehow they learn that success is costly and associated with unpleasant consequences."
Self-handicapping allows people to fail while protecting their sense of self-worth. It's creating an obstacle that provides a built-in excuse and, therefore, allows the individual to deflect the cause of his or her poor performance away from his or her ability.
Here are a few tips to help you overcome your potential for self-sabotage.
1. What do you fear? Take a sheet of paper and divide it into two columns. Create a list of your fears of losing weight and all the negatives that surround weight loss. Now challenge those fears. For instance, "People fear that when they change their bodies, they may have to deal with more people being attracted to them, which might threaten an existing relationship," says Pillay.
2. Think about the future. Picture four specific, positive situations occurring after you achieve your goal. This is called "visualization"-- an imagined, meaningful, detailed vision of a specific moment in time after you've reached your goal weight. Think of every emotional and physical detail of these future moments to help you get through the tough times or when you feel you're losing sight of your goal. For example, imagine a thinner, healthier you running into your ex at the mall.
3. Set short-term, focused, realistic goals. Sometimes you just need to focus on the task. Don't look too far ahead; just set specific daily, achievable goals. So, if your overall goal is to lose 40 pounds, break that down into specific meals you will be eating, and the exact amount of exercise you'll be doing. For instance, "On Monday I will spend 20 minutes walking to work, 20 minutes walking home, and 20 minutes biking around the park." These goals are not about weight control, they're about what you're going to do that specific day.

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