4. Identify Your Partner's Race-Day Persona, and Accept It
I think triathletes morph into one of three types on race morning: Angry birds, deer-caught-in-the-headlights or Chatty Cathy's. You likely know which one you are already, but you'll learn pretty quickly which type your partner is.
Here's a tip: Two angry birds doing the same race should literally not talk to one another for 24 hours pre- and post-race. No matter what type your partner is, just make a mental note of it and plan accordingly.
5. Create a Household Chore List
For the triathlon widow, it's pretty much a given fact that during their partner's heavy training they will more or less be doing all the heavy lifting when it comes to housework and childcare. But when you're both in training, you'd be surprised at just how quickly your house will fall apart and you're both sitting at a table eating Ramen noodles for the second night in a row.
Creating a chore list and taking turns being in charge of dinner, the kids and walking the dog will not only keep your house in order and your nutrition in check, but it can help you avoid unnecessary strife.
6. Accept Your Partner's Success As Your Own (And Vice Versa)
Beware the green-eyed monster, which has come between more triathlon couples (both professionals and age groupers) than I can count. When you've won your age group all season, but your partner has had two DNFs and a pulled hamstring--try to put yourself in their shoes before you hang your medals over the bed.
If you're the one with the crappy season, try and be happy for your partner's success. Sooner or later the tide will turn, and once in a while you'll hit that sweet spot when you both have found racing success. If you make a point to stay positive and be genuinely happy for your partner, your relationship will be that much stronger.
7. Be On The Same Team (Literally and Figuratively)
Joining your local Masters or triathlon club together is a fantastic way to meet other multisport couples and get in great group training sessions.
Most tri clubs these days have plenty of social opportunities, which will give your relationship a chance to blossom outside of the transition area. But it's also important to remember that in order for your relationship to last, you need to consider your coupledom as the main priority.
If one of you is suffering from an injury, you need to be compassionate, understanding and patient. There are many ups and downs in triathlon, but having a partner beside you to help enjoy the highs and ride out the storms? Well, that's really what being a multisport couple is all about.
two to five pounds each week until you feel you have adequate strength for triathlons.
If you have a race coming up, lift light weights two weeks before the race to ensure your body is fresh for race day. Always use common sense in the gym—do not get greedy with loads you are not prepared for.
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