RFI's B.A.M. Adventures Father-Son Retreat - Georgia
Start: Friday, October 18, 2013
Union Point , GA 30669
Registration Closing Date
Thursday, October 17, 2013
We were standing at the intersection of two trails during The Great Race when it happened. A father and son finished an initiative and the dad said, “Where should we go next?” As the son studied the map, dad realized that the map was upside down. Rather than fix it for him, dad let his son make the decision. “Left,” the son said. They sprinted down the trail.
Three minutes later they came racing back. The son, smiling and waving the map in the air, said, “I figured it out, I figured it out!” We watched that son’s confidence grow the remainder of the event. One simple act, letting his son make a decision and learning from it, made all the difference.
Just a snapshot of what makes BAM Adventures father/son events so powerful.
One dad shared the following thoughts with his wife after returning from a BAM Adventures retreat, “It was the most intentional and transforming event I have experienced. I could see purpose in everything we did.”
Good Intentions – Don’t Know How
Most dads have good intentions. They want a loving and empowering relationship with their sons. But most don’t know how to do it. That is why we created BAM Adventures father/son events. We create the optimum environment for fathers and sons to build their relationship in a way that empowers the son on the journey to manhood with dad by his side. By experiencing it together they both see the power that a new rhythm of action creates. They can then take it home to continue growing.
Our goal for every BAM Adventures event is simple:
1. Empower young men on the journey to manhood
2. Strengthening the bond between father and son
3. Create an adventure that they share together.
Let the Son Take the Lead
Empowering a young man on the journey to manhood requires putting him in the driver’s seat in a low risk, healthy competitive environment. There, with dad by his side, he can learn the lessons of working together, talking about important things, facing adversity together, laughing at failure and getting back up.
Here are just a few of the things that fathers have said about BAM Adventures events:
- I talked more with my son in three days than I have in the last three years.
- The laugh and play were transforming. We had forgotten how to play. Thanks for making it happen again.
- Working as a team throughout the weekend created a bond that we have never had before.
- Instead of listening to others talk about a good relationship, we built it during the weekend!
- I saw my son’s confidence grow throughout the weekend.
Don’t stop, though. Here is what sons said after spending a BAM Adventures weekend with their dad:
- This was awesome.
- This was the best experience of my life!
- My dad did not listen to me much before the weekend. He actually listens now. I can tell by the questions he asks.
- Working with my step-dad as a team was really cool.
- Building the water cannons and doing battle was great.
- The Great Race was the best.
Plus, our military has recently recognized BAM Adventures as the benchmark for high impact father/son experiences.
What Makes BAM Events So Powerful?
On the surface, what fathers and sons do during a BAM Adventures weekend might seem ordinary. But the unique way the activities and discussions are structured creates a level of interaction and growth other programs miss. What makes them so powerful is how we stack activities during the weekend. Organizing what fathers and sons do with progressive intensity during the weekend makes working together and conversation easier. Plus, by laughing and doing physical things together, emotional barriers that separate father and son come down.
Do & Discuss Method
One key is our trademarked Do and Discuss Method. We don’t just “do fun things.” We organize, structure and stack them in a specific way over the weekend to breakdown barriers and improve communication. Men talk more when they first do things together. So, discussions are always paired with activities that put father and son together doing things in a fast paced and energizing way.
The shift from competition to teamwork is key. Because father and son work together as a team throughout the event, the competition often seen between fathers and sons is transformed into teamwork as they compete in a fun way against other fathers and sons.
Sons Take the Lead
But, that’s not all. During a BAM Adventures weekend we shift the rules of the game. We let the son take the lead. Putting the son in the drivers seat shifts the whole relationship. When it is done in a fun and adventurous way it makes this shift even more powerful. This simple “flipping of the rules” helps fathers learn to listen more, affirm more, and coach rather than criticize.
Structure to Talk
One more thing… the structure to talk. Fathers and sons want good communication, but most struggle to do it. The private, pre-planned discussions between father and son open the door for meaningful, constructive and loving communication. When the son has to talk first and the dad has to listen - good things happen.
Months after an event a father shared the following:
“Before attending a BAM Adventures event, my son always went to mom if he had a question or to share a thought. After the event I saw an immediate change. He began coming to me with questions and thoughts and continues to do so to this day. Shortly after the event I was deployed for six months. When I got home, my son still came to me with thoughts and questions. Thanks BAM.”
Father Is an Inclusive Term
We have had biological fathers, stepfathers, grandfathers and male mentors at BAM Adventures events. Whatever the makeup of your family, BAM Adventures events can help you grow your relationship.
Ages 6 – 17
BAM Adventures events are designed for sons ages 6-17. This may seem like a wide age span, but the unique design of the weekend makes it all possible. Because fathers and sons work as a team throughout the event, most of the time is spent between father and son. When activities require greater physical skills or more cognitive development, the event is divided into BAM tribes (ages 11-17) and BAM Jr. (ages 6-10).
Registration is limited so hurry and register your family today! (If you have more than 3 children that you would like to attend, please call our office at (706) 424-2724 for registration information.)Event schedule and times
The event starts just before supper on Friday evening, October 18.
What to Expect
Dozens of father/son teams pumped and ready for action!
Immediately after supper everyone is outside warming up with wild and wacky field games. Our signature Rapid Fire Q & A begins to build the rhythm of action for the weekend - setting the stage for the first private discussion.
Saturday is chocked full of high energy and adventure from sun up to way past sundown. The Great Race is the highlight of the morning. Father and son teams racing through camp with the son in the lead. Laughing, testing their physical limits and working together, they finish with a splash into the pool.
The day doesn’t stop there, though...
How much do fathers and sons know about each other? That’s what Father/Son Trivia answers. For younger sons and dads storytelling creates a powerful adventure tool as fathers and sons learn to create adventure stories of their own.
Construction & Competition
Then… it’s off to construction & competition. Everyone becomes a boy again as fathers and sons wage battle, get soaked and play together with other fathers and sons.
Opportunity to Listen, Affirm and Love
Throughout the day fathers and sons have three private discussions that create a unique learning environment to listen, affirm each other and express their love for each other as men should.
The Man Campfire and smores make the day complete!
Sunday is the icing on the cake as fathers and sons leave with Man Pose, Man Handshake and Man Hug and the Circle of Affirmation.
The weekend starts just before supper on Friday and ends mid-morning on Sunday. Below is the schedule for the event.
- Registration begins at 4 p.m.
- Welcome & Opening Events
- Rapid Fire Q & A
- Discussion # 1
- Morning Watch
- Morning Energy Set
- Discussion # 2
- The Great Race
- Father/Son Trivia & Storytelling
- Discussion # 3
- Construction & Competition
- Free time
- Discussion # 4
- The Man Campfire
- Morning Watch
- Man Pose, Man Handshake, Man Hug
- Circle of Affirmation/Shields
- Adjourn by 11 a.m.