Based on her number one value, Nicole made some simple rules for herself:
- Plan her day by her values first, not what the list demanded.
- Multitask only if it helped her feel more productive and more present. She knew trying to carve herself up often led to clutter, chaos, and confusion.
- Spend money only if it contributed to a sense of connection with loved ones and would not create debt stress.
- Let go, delegate, or outsource projects that kept her from living her number one value: to create a sense of connection with others.
To climb into her BMW mind she practiced some easy tools:
- Micro smile. She'd let a tiny smile come to her lips and noticed a wave of well being flow into her body.
- Breathe. She did the 7-11 breath: seven seconds in, 11 seconds out, and pause.
- She made a SoulCollage? card for her family and placed it remind her of her number one value (to learn more about a SoulCollage visit www.counseling-portlandoregon.com/SoulCollage.html.)
- Used a special light for her SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder).
Your Recipe for the Holidays
Perhaps you want to avoid Mt. Stress this year. To create a memorable, enjoyable holiday, make use of your value compass. Let it chart your course as you sit behind the driver's wheel. Let speed work for you.
Reduce stress in a yoga class.
Suzie Wolfer, LCSW a psychotherapist for more than 20 years, specializes in mindfulness. Learn more at www.suziewolfer.com, where you'll find free audio and video resources for reducing stress and creating peace of mind.